Note: This is the more thorough description of our networks expansion initiative. If you would like the “Just Give Me The Nuts And Bolts” version, please CLICK HERE.
In 1967, Harvard social psychologist Stanley Milgram set out to test an experiment: How many social connections it would take to link any two random people in the United States?
Here’s how he did it:
He asked participants in Nebraska and Kansas to send a letter to a target person in Massachusetts.
They could only send the letter to someone they knew on a first-name basis, who they thought was more likely to know the target.
The letters were passed from person to person, and Milgram tracked how many steps it took to reach the target.
His finding?Â
On average, it took about six intermediaries—hence the now-famous idea of “six degrees of separation.” You may recall the popular game Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon—It is actually a pop culture spin-off of the six degrees of separation concept, and it’s rooted in the same idea: we’re all more closely connected than we think. In the 1990s, Duncan Watts and Steven Strogatz expanded this research through network theory, showing that even in large, complex systems, most nodes (people, web pages, etc.) are connected by surprisingly short paths. Social media (especially Facebook) later confirmed that the average degree of separation globally is even lower—around 3.5 to 4.5 connections.
The lesson? Change doesn’t require fame or massive power—it just takes connected, motivated people willing to act together.
Some Backstory:
Back in 2011, this project started out as a Facebook page that sought to call out the false narratives surrounding family court custody decisions and parents with sole custody. Later, I added a blog for the occasional deeper analysis, and all that.Â
After awhile I became pretty burned out, so I took some time off to mull over whether I wanted to continue advocating for family law reform and helping targeted parents. Admittedly, I was close to doing just that. The only problem is tolerating injustice is just not in my DNA, and I knew that if I gave up, I would feel unfulfilled with the decision and no amount of time would change that. But still, I had to figure out a way to pursue this project’s goals without fizzling out again and much of what I have put into this site covers these first two problems. The public facing information on this website (and there is a lot of it) is intended to expose false narratives and point the reader toward the truth so they can be more honestly informed. Another component, the Legacy Member Handbook is intended to be resource to help you re-calibrate your life, transform adversity into power, and outwit your adversaries.
But this leaves the last two parts of the mission of this project: (1) effecting legislative change, and (2) reversing public sentiment about parental alienation and sole custody parenting. To these ends, I decided I needed to find a better, more efficient way to harvest political capital and apply pressure because what we were doing was just not working. The truth is the landscape of the family law reform ecosystem is littered with the bodies of the burn-outs; and that is in no small part because the system has been engineered to do exactly that to non-custodial parents and their advocates.Â
In any case, the website we all have now my solution to tackling all these problems, and at the core of what we’re doing, every victory we pursue—whether in courtrooms, culture, or connections—boils down to one irreplaceable truth: Scale creates inevitability.
How It Works:
Family Law Reform needs unignorable numbers to pressure lawmakers (vs. isolated complaints they can ignore).
Fighting False Narratives requires crowdsourced truth-telling—thousands sharing facts drown out outdated lies.
Reuniting Families thrives on local support webs (therapists, legal allies, peers who’ve won similar battles).
Your Private Network’s Value multiplies when more skilled, aligned members join (doctors + lawyers + alienated adult children = unstoppable resource hub).
Our Secret Weapon:
We’re not building one network, but a constellation of independent groups—local advocates, professional alliances, grassroots circles—all reinforcing each other. Like neurons firing together, this structure makes the whole smarter, faster, and harder to stop.
Every goal we have—from courtroom reform to family reunification—relies on one unstoppable force: the exponential power of our Six Degrees growth model. Here’s how it transforms isolated efforts into systemic change:
The Six Degrees Flywheel:
You Join (Degree 1) – Your upgrade adds your skills, story, and network to the system.
Your Connections Activate (Degrees 2-3) – When you invite allies (or even just exist in the network), they become reachable by others—without you lifting a finger.
Local Networks Emerge (Degrees 4-6) – As more members cluster in your area, the system auto-flags your zip code for targeted tools/events.
Critical Mass = Autopilot Change – At 12+ members per zone, the network begins:
Politicians notice (voter blocs form)
Media narratives shift (crowdsourced truth outweighs stigma)
Reunions accelerate (more local mentors = faster healing)
Why This is Revolutionary:
Passive Power: Your mere presence in the network automatically creates paths for others (like Sarah in Denver connecting to a lawyer in her area through your inactive cousin’s membership).
Compound Growth: 1 invite → 5 hidden connections → 25 potential allies. That’s the math that topples systems.
No Superheroes Needed: The model thrives on ordinary participation—not martyrdom.
Harvesting The Six Degrees Model For Political Power:
The six degrees of separation phenomenon isn’t just a quirky social idea—it’s a powerful architecture for real-world influence. When applied strategically, it can be harvested to create political power from the ground up, especially in movements like ours that are community-driven, justice-focused, and emotionally resonant.
At any given moment, you are six or fewer connections away from anyone in the world—including lawmakers, journalists, judges, influencers, and policy-makers. That means you don’t need to know powerful people. You just need to know people:
- Scale Without Gatekeepers: You don’t need direct access to political leaders—you need access to the people who influence them. If every member of your network brings in a few others, and they do the same, you’re rapidly expanding a web of influence. It becomes a distributed system of persuasion and pressure, not a top-down lobbying effort.
- Localized Connection = National Leverage: By activating local support networks (friends, families, communities), you build a microcosm of trust that can ripple outward. These trusted nodes often hold surprising reach: someone has a friend who works in a courthouse. Another knows a journalist. A third has lunch with a senator’s aide. The more intentional you are with mapping and activating these links, the more powerful your reach becomes.
- Narrative Correction Through Network Effects: False narratives (like “alienated parents are selfish” or “courts are always fair”) thrive because of information gaps. Your growing network becomes a distributed truth-telling engine—amplifying personal stories, correcting misconceptions, and flooding the narrative space with lived experience. One person telling a story feels isolated. A network of 1,000 telling similar stories becomes impossible to ignore.
- Coordinated, Hyper-Local Action with National Impact: With a six-degrees model, your campaign can coordinate simultaneous local actions that point to shared national goals—a tactic that makes movements like Black Lives Matter or MADD so effective. It’s not about one big protest—it’s about hundreds of coordinated conversations, hearings, media moments, or showings of public pressure, all connected across short relational chains.
- Leverage and Legitimacy Through Numbers: As your member network grows, so does your political leverage. When you can demonstrate thousands of engaged citizens across jurisdictions, you’re no longer asking. You’re demanding with legitimacy—and lawmakers take notice. Every new member isn’t just a supporter—they’re a bridge to the next circle of influence.
Benefits Beyond Political Power:
The six degrees growth engine, when actively cultivated, does far more than build political power—it creates a living system of opportunity, support, and self-determination. By fostering a web of interconnected local networks, your movement unlocks collective uplift, not just collective action.
No matter what your personal goal is—building a business, finding a mentor, reuniting with family, publishing a book, passing legislation, or just not feeling alone—you are more likely to succeed if your goals are known, shared, and supported by others.
When people show up for each other—without agenda, but with shared purpose—mutual aid becomes second nature. Need a job lead? Emotional support? Help with your kid’s school? Housing advice? A connection to a local official? Someone in your extended six degrees has it—or knows someone who does.
The Love & Iron Project isn’t just fighting for policy change—we’re building something deeper: a resilient, growing alliance of like-minded people who stand together, not just in outrage, but in action, support, and healing.
We know that non-custodial parents, their families, and those estranged by corrupt or broken systems are often misrepresented, misunderstood, and mistreated—by courts, government, and even their communities. The grief is personal. The injustice is systemic. And too often, we’re left to navigate it alone.
But no more.
We are creating a space where we take care of our own—mothers, fathers, grandparents, step-parents, adult children, aunts, uncles, friends, colleagues—anyone impacted by alienation or abuse of power in the family court system, AND also literally anyone who agrees with us that change needs to happen. All who stand with us are welcome.
This Is Bigger Than Reform — It’s About Your Life, Your Goals, Your Future
Yes — The Love & Iron Project is committed to reforming family law and ending parental alienation abuse. But our mission is so much more than that.
This is about building a real alliance — a living, breathing network of people who not only fight injustice together, but lift each other up in every other part of life too. We are here to help you succeed, not just in the courtroom, or with your advocacy work, but in every aspect of your life.Â
When you stand with us, we stand with you — not just in activism, but in your everyday reality. We share wins, we share resources, and we show up for each other—because we believe success shouldn’t just be for the few, and healing shouldn’t be something you have to do alone.
Your Safe Space to Strategize, Connect & Win – The Members-Only Network Where Privacy Comes First!
Join our 100% private online social network—a safe, moderated space free from spammers, stalkers, and trolls. Connect only with verified members who share your mission, whether they’re down the street or across the country. Find allies in your area, exchange strategies in confidence, and build real relationships with people who actually understand—because privacy isn’t just a feature here, it’s the foundation.
Outsmart the Competition: The Legacy Member Handbook – Your Secret Weapon for Victory!
Unlock our exclusive Legacy Member Handbook and gain a strategic advantage in any challenge—whether in family court or beyond. This powerful resource equips you with battle-tested tactics drawn from psychology, economics, and game theory—helping you outmaneuver opposition, reverse unfair situations, and secure better outcomes. These aren’t just theories; they’re proven strategies used by winning members to turn the tide in their favor. With this handbook, you’re not just reacting—you’re strategically dismantling obstacles and reclaiming control.
Take Control of Your Story: Craft the Unique Profile That Works for You!
Your story matters—make it heard. With our Update Member Profile feature, you control how you show up in the network. Highlight your experience, share what you’re fighting for, and connect with the exact allies who can help. This isn’t just a profile; it’s your advocacy identity—crafted by you, for the change you want to see.
Amplify Your Impact with Directory Listings—Your Platform to Be Seen, Supported, and Found!
Showcase your advocacy group, local organization, freelance services, or mission-driven business in our Google-visible to all! Boost visibility, attract allies, and grow your reach with a dedicated listing that connects you directly with the community members who need your work most. Whether you’re building a movement or offering vital services, this is your spotlight in a space where people are already fighting for the same change.
Launch Your Own Movement with Site Groups—Build a Community Around What Matters Most to You!
Whether you’re rallying for a cause, growing a professional network, or connecting over shared passions, our Site Groups let you create and lead your own dedicated space. Bring together the right people, exchange ideas, and drive real action—all within a platform designed for impact. No gatekeeping, no limits—just your mission, amplified.
Unlock Exclusive Access: Join the Rising Legacy Keyholder Group for Premium Perks & Power Moves!
Joining the “Rising” group means stepping into the inner circle of change-makers. As a Legacy Keyholder, you’ll gain exclusive access to members-only strategy sessions, high-value contests and giveaways, and early insights into the most effective tactics. This is where you’ll connect with fellow leaders, amplify your projects, and gain the competitive edge needed to win tougher battles—both in and out of court. These aren’t just perks; they’re force multipliers designed to accelerate your impact. When you’re ready to operate at the highest level of this movement, your Legacy Keyholder status awaits.
Plug In. Power Up. Move Forward.
Everything built into The Love & Iron Project website exists because I use it myself. These aren’t abstract ideas or tools made for “someday” — they’re what I continue to rely on in my own life, and everything that’s coming next is something I plan to use, too. This site is more than a message board or a blog — it’s a productivity tool, designed to help you get more done with less effort. It’s about saving your time and your energy, while still moving your goals forward.
While our mission is rooted in family law reform, ending parental alienation abuse, and correcting the public narrative around non-custodial parenting, I want to be honest: I don’t enjoy spending my life entangled in family court matters. And I’m sure you don’t either. That’s why this platform isn’t just about court — it’s about everything that comes after. The tools we’re building here are meant to support your entire life, whether you’re dealing with legal issues or simply trying to heal, grow, and move forward in other areas.
The most important thing to understand is that our Six Degrees growth engine works largely in the background. It’s a system built to expand passively. We’ve designed it so you don’t need to be constantly active for it to work — you just need to be present within it. Upgrading to Legacy Keyholder status is what plugs you into the network. From that point on, as our membership grows, local connections start forming on their own, and you begin to see how this alliance takes shape — one person, one town, one link at a time.
Think of our private network not as a single community, but as a collection of interconnected networks. We’re all aligned around the mission, but each of us brings different passions, talents, and interests into the space. Some members are focused on reform and activism. Others are here for healing, professional networking, or to build something new in their lives. These micro-networks feed into the larger mission — and support you as a whole person, not just someone navigating the court system.
The Love and Iron Project isn’t just another advocacy group—it’s a living, breathing alliance of people with skin in the game and heart in the mission. We are targeted parents fighting to bring our children home. Estranged adult children reclaiming stolen bonds. Grandparents and extended family who refuse to be erased. Independent activists and reform organizations pushing strategies that work. And we’re proud to stand with allies of every background—folks who may not have lived our family court battles, but who believe, like we do, that justice shouldn’t depend on your last name or court order.
What we’re building here isn’t just a platform. It’s an alliance — a quiet but powerful force where we take care of our own, help each other grow, and build the kind of life we all deserve. The system is already here. All that’s left is for you to step in.
Here’s the truth: Family court is just one battlefield. The tools you’ll find here—for communication, organization, and strategy—work just as powerfully for your career, personal growth, or local activism. Because your life shouldn’t be consumed by this fight.
Our Six Degrees growth engine runs on a simple rule: Your presence matters more than your labor. Once you join as a Legacy Keyholder:
We connect you to your people—local parents, lawyers, advocates
New members gravitate to your expertise (even if you rarely log in)
The network expands organically—no endless meetings required
This is how we win: Not as isolated victims, but as a web of interlocking strengths. A grandparent’s wisdom fuels a targeted parent’s case. An ally’s social reach spreads our message. An estranged adult’s story shifts public opinion. Every node in this network—every one of us—makes the whole stronger.
The System Is Built. Now It’s Time to Grow — Full Steam Ahead.
After months of building, testing, and connecting… The New and Improved Love & Iron Project is ready. The architecture is in place. The foundation is strong. The system works.
Now, it’s all about growing the movement — and that means you. You don’t need to build anything. You don’t need to figure it out alone. We’ve already done the hard part — all you have to do is step in.
Right now, we’re creating a network of local networks — groups of parents, allies, and advocates coming together in towns, cities, and communities just like yours. You’re not meant to do this alone, And with our system, you won’t have to.
All you need to do is upgrade your membership — just once. Pick any amount that feels right to you, and you’re in!
From that point on:
     ❤️ The system carries you forward…
      📍 You’re looped into your local region…
     💬 You’ll start meeting others who are right where you are — emotionally and geographically…
     🚀 And before you know it… things start moving!
Next Steps:
If you’ve been through family court, you’ve likely been drained — emotionally, mentally, and financially. Many of us have spent thousands trying to protect our children, defend our rights, and hold it all together.
We see you.
That’s exactly why The Love & Iron Project is built to minimize your costs — not add to them. Our primary goal is to make powerful tools, real support, and meaningful community affordable and accessible for every family who’s been through the fire.
To fully access everything we’ve built — including our premium site tools, local networking features, and private member-only social platform — you will need to upgrade your membership.
But here’s the part I’m proud of:
- It’s a miniscule, one-time fee — no subscriptions, no surprises.
- Once and done — you’re in for good.
Yes, that’s right…To access our premium member tools, private social network, and local organizing spaces, we ask for a one-time upgrade.
Your contribution helps us:
- Keep out spammers, trolls, and stalkers
- Maintain a safe, respectful, and private environment
- Promote the alliance and our goals for family law reform and ending parental alienation abuse
- Keep the lights on add additional services
This upgrade helps sustain the system that connects us all — while keeping things affordable, accessible, and fair for everyone. This isn’t about making money — it’s about building something sustainable, safe, and strong for people who’ve already been through enough.
Unlock Your Potential: Upgrade and Join a Growing Network for Families
The Love and Iron Project has moved into its growth effort, offering you the opportunity to upgrade your membership and become part of a growing, supportive network. With flexible pricing and passive participation, you can connect with noncustodial families, advocates, and support professionals, while benefiting from tools and resources designed to help you live better—on your terms.
We’re Growing
The Love and Iron Project has entered its outreach phase, focused on building local networks right in your area.Passive Participation
Our Six Degrees Growth Engine works passively. Just being present within it is what matters most—no heavy lifting required.Support When You Need It
Everything on the site is designed to help you live better, whether you’re dealing with family court or not. Log in only when you need to.We’ll Keep You Updated
You’ll get updates on events, new tools, local projects, and sprouting networks tailored to your interests.An Open Alliance
We welcome noncustodial families, targeted parents, estranged children, extended family, reformers, support pros, and anyone aligned with our mission.- Once You Upgrade, The System Takes Over
Once you have upgraded, join the “Rising” membership group on our website and we’ll walk you through how to make the most of your membership.
How to Get Started:
When you register with the Six Degrees to Love and Justice roll-out, you’re doing more than upgrading—you’re planting a flag in a place that matters to you. You’ll be the spark that activates a powerful outreach system in your chosen postal code, connecting you to others, building momentum, and creating real pressure for change—without you having to carry it all yourself. You’ll have access to exclusive tools and a private network that works behind the scenes to amplify your impact. It’s your chance to be part of something meaningful and unstoppable—to know you helped shift the tide toward justice, healing, and reunification. And it all starts with one small, powerful step.
We’re kicking things off with a goal of targeting only 23 ZIP codes, and we’d love for yours to be one of them. Joining in is simple and flexible—and you get to choose what works best for you. Here’s what to do:
Purchase your Legacy Key below — take advantage of our kick-off discount!
Submit your ZIP code using the form at the bottom of the page.
If you’re choosing to skip the upgrade, you can still register your zip code, however, it will reside at the bottom of the priority list. Skip the payment window below and click the “Register Zip Your Code” button at the bottom of this page. Just be sure to also check that option on the form.
(Fair disclosure: non-legacy keyholder postal code submissions are still part of the plan, but will remain prioritized behind those who have paid for a Legacy Key. We figured you probably guessed that, but just wanted to be totally clear)
That’s it! Once you’re in, we’ll take it from there and get to work building your local network.
This is how real change starts.
Not with speeches — but with a system.
Not with lone voices — but with linked arms.
Help us build local networks where you live.
Upgrade today.
Our system will take it from there.
Price Reduced During The Six Degrees To Love & Justice Kick-off Event!
- One-time purchase - Pay once and you're all set for life.
- Awards access to our private online network.
- Unlocks the Legacy Member Handbook and Tactical Note Book Supplements.
- Update your profile, create personal networks, and join site groups.
- Create Google-indexed directory listings for your groups, projects, non-profit, free lance work, social media pages, professional practice, or business.
- Legacy Keyholder-only site groups, special events, contests, games, and giveaways.
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