Last year, I was having a discussion with a woman I know who was having an on-going custody and child support dispute with the father of her children. Just to lay the groundwork, the father gets 4 hours visitation on Sunday afternoons every two weeks and, he gets to walk his child from her mother’s […]Continue reading "Family Law Reform: Blame-Shifting, Victim-Shaming, and Deception."
I was reminded of the thought expressed in the title to this post the other day, which provoked me to update some older posts that decomposed and explained Title IV-D bonuses and incentives to states (Federal Title IV-D funds are bonuses and incentives paid to states for maximizing, collecting, enforcing, and administering child support payments). […]Continue reading "Family Law Reform: Sometimes People Want You To Think It’s About Others, When It’s Really About Them."
Recently, I was updating our breakdown of Title IV-D incentive payments to states, and I came across this little gem in a 2012 budget request from the Department of Health and Human Services Administration for Children and Families for title IV-D funding. This is on page 278 (source https://www.acf.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/olab/cse.pdf): “Child Support and Fatherhood Initiative […]Continue reading "Apparently, Noncustodial Parents Need To Be Encouraged To “Visit” With Their Children."
Note: This is an updated consolidation of two posts made in August/September 2012. Way back in 2012, we were having a discussion where I was asserting that states can receive anywhere from $1 to $2 in Federal subsidy payments for every dollar they collect and administer in child support payments. And it was during this […]Continue reading "Family Law Reform: The Ugly Truth About Why States Don’t Want The Presumption Of 50/50 Parenting After Divorce"
Is shared parenting legislation a win? Sadly, probably not. In truth, it’s mostly political deception intended to manufacture the appearance of change, when in fact, there is nothing that is substantively different from existing law. To test for yourself if this statement is true, ask yourself a few questions about your proposed or existing shared […]Continue reading "Caution: Shared Parenting May Not Be What You Think It Is."
Consider the following story from one of our members: “My son testified in the state capital when a proposal was made to adopt 50/50 custody. He did not care about money, he pays his support by living home with me. What he wanted was more time with his sons and he petitioned for an extra […]Continue reading "Family Law Reform: The Failure Of A Moral Argument"
This case is both difficult to read, but also amazing. It is a reminder that even that when dealing with Parental Alienation, False Allegations, and the Family Court, there is hope. I met my (now) husband when I was 28. He has three children from a previous marriage. Shortly after being married for one year […]Continue reading "Loving With Letters – Celia"
You might have noticed that the common theme of our most recent publicity messages center around “sharing the truth”. And there’s a reason for this: we’ve been seeing a rather active effort on the part of our opposition to blatantly lie to the Public in an attempt to thwart Family Law reform. In reality, this […]Continue reading "Memo To Followers: Is The Fox Ruling The Henhouse?"
You may recall that I recently posted a memo describing how States are profiting from the creation of absent parents (see the link below for the original post). Well, in that post, I only described part of the money picture the States are getting. And while I’m still working on it, below is copy from […]Continue reading "Memo To Followers: The Ugly Truth About Why States Don’t Want Shared/Equal Parenting (Continued):"
Recently, I’ve been getting some queries about why I’ve been hammering so much on the issue of child support payments. And, I suspect, we’ve lost a follower or two because I’ve sort of ratcheted up the rhetoric on this topic a bit lately. In fact, a couple of weeks a ago, we were having a […]Continue reading "The Ugly Truth: Why States and Courts Don’t Want Shared Parenting"